Las mujeres somos fuerte
This is something my mother has said to me since I was a child. Since I was a little girl unaware of what women hood would bring, she would lift my little head up and say this phrase. To those who do not speak Spanish, it means “Us women are strong.”
I was unaware of what strength meant. To me when I pictured the word strong I pictured a person lifting a couch with their pinky’s. Lifting a building was also something I associated with the word strength.
When I thought of strength at the age of 7, I imagined it had to do with men. Men can lift things, they are bigger, they have “strength.”
My mother’s idea of strength was different and it shaped my childhood immensely. She said, “when a person deals with immense pain carrying a child and giving birth, that is a strength a man will never know.” She said, “strength can be emotional. Strength is in your heart.”
I have always been petite, so I liked this idea that I was strong within. I started living life this way. I envisioned my ability to cry and embrace my emotions as if it could punch a wall.
At times I’d be discouraged with life and feel weak, but my mom’s voice resigns in my head. “Las mujeres somos fuerte.” That phrase right there gave me the strength to get up and wipe my tears.
I’ve dated men who made me feel small but god how good it felt when I was strong enough to leave them or put myself first.
Strength is not just a ability in men. Strength is not always physical. Strength is tolerating the ups and downs of life and still loving living.
Strength is being able to embrace emotions. To stand up for yourself and show the world you are not less because of your sex.
I guess I wrote this because some days I forget what my mom said years ago before I could understand it, “Las mujeres somos fuerte.”